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here’s why some sideline remarks are probably less helpful to your kids than you think

  • Written by Elise Waghorn, Lecturer, School of Education, RMIT University
here’s why some sideline remarks are probably less helpful to your kids than you think

The winter sports season is about to begin. This means parents will soon find themselves on cold weekends, watching their kids on the sidelines of soccer, netball and footy matches.

As they stamp their feet to stay warm, they may find themselves wanting to offer encouragement or guidance. They may also find themselves expressing views about a controversial referee decision or becoming emotional about how their child or their child’s team is performing.

What impact does this have on your kids? How can you spectate in a helpful way?

Parents behaviour matters

A 2024 Australian pilot study[1] surveyed 67 teenagers who play team sports and have parents watching from the sidelines.

It found if the parents were positive on the sidelines (cheering, encouraging athletes, helping if someone was hurt), young players were more likely to behave better towards their teammates and opponents.

The reverse was also true. Negative sideline behaviours (such as, yelling, swearing, put-downs, getting annoyed, reacting badly to a loss/foul) meant children were more likely to behave similarly on the field.

Parents behaviour can also influence how much a child enjoys a sport and whether they want to quit. As a 2016 US study[2] noted:

if children perceive parents to engage in pressuring behaviors, such as excessive expectations, criticising play, or withdrawing love after competition it can lead to negative sporting experiences.

Adults watch young people playing soccer on green oval
Research suggests parents behaviour on the sidelines has an impact on their kids’ behaviour on the field. Shutterstock[3]

Bad behaviour leads to bans

Sports codes and clubs have clear guidelines around expected behaviour on and off the field. Parents, teams and coaches can be banned or penalised if they are abusive or violent. It is not OK to swear, make threats, or be aggressive towards coaches, umpires or players.

As an extreme example, in February, an under 16 basketball game descended into a brawl involving parents[4] in Melbourne’s Reservoir. Both teams were banned for the rest of the season.

But it’s about more than brawling

But there are other ways parental behaviour can be negative for their children playing sport.

Common comments like “c'mon shoot”, “watch the ball” or “kick it harder” may seem helpful and supportive but they can also be controlling[5]. They are not trusting children to simply play the game the best they can (and for that to be enough).

You could ask yourself: would I like these comments or find them helpful if I was playing?

These sorts of comments also very easily tip into more belittling remarks if children don’t respond or make a mistake. For example, “you’re playing too slowly, hurry up!”, “they’re all over you” or “that’s pathetic”. Criticising a child’s abilities either privately or in front of others undermines their confidence and self esteem.

Also avoid giving different instructions from the team’s coach. This can cause confusion and embarrassment for players.

Meanwhile, all this pressure from parents suggests winning is the most important thing. It means sport is less about fun, playing with friends and developing skills. It may simply lead to a child wanting to quit[6].

Read more: What makes kids want to drop out of sport, and how should parents respond?[7]

What is helpful sideline behaviour?

Any parent who has watched their child play will also know it is very hard to stay absolutely quiet. So if you do want to yell out, you could say something supportive, such as “that’s the way, good work!” or “keep going!”

Other ways to make children feel supported include:

  • reminding them how proud you are they are having a go, either before or after a match

  • supporting and encouraging all players on the team and acknowledging goals or success of the other team

  • letting the coach do the coaching

  • honouring the umpire’s decision (even if you do not agree with it).

Children look to their parents as role models[8]. This is why staying calm and positive and just being there at half-time with a drink are much more valuable than offering non-stop commentary during play.

Read more: Is your child 'overscheduled?' How to get the balance right on extracurricular activities[9]

References

  1. ^ pilot study (www.frontiersin.org)
  2. ^ 2016 US study (psycnet.apa.org)
  3. ^ Shutterstock (www.shutterstock.com)
  4. ^ brawl involving parents (www.9news.com.au)
  5. ^ can also be controlling (www.researchgate.net)
  6. ^ wanting to quit (edwp.educ.msu.edu)
  7. ^ What makes kids want to drop out of sport, and how should parents respond? (theconversation.com)
  8. ^ parents as role models (www.researchgate.net)
  9. ^ Is your child 'overscheduled?' How to get the balance right on extracurricular activities (theconversation.com)

Read more https://theconversation.com/watch-the-ball-heres-why-some-sideline-remarks-are-probably-less-helpful-to-your-kids-than-you-think-227447

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