A Divorce Lawyer’s Top Tips for Making a Relationship Last

Carolyn Devries, founder of New Way Lawyers, is often one of the first professionals couples turn to when they’re considering separation or divorce. Having worked as a family lawyer for many years, Carolyn has witnessed hundreds of relationships unravel. While each case is unique, there are common threads that often lead to separation. Drawing from her experience, Carolyn offers advice on how to strengthen a relationship and avoid the path of separation:

1. Prioritize Quality Time Together

In today’s digital age, it’s easy to get lost in your devices instead of focusing on your partner. Many couples spend time together but remain distracted by screens, which can lead to a sense of disconnect. Carving out intentional time for each other—whether on weeknights, weekends, or whenever it works best for both of you—helps nurture connection and allows you to check in on each other’s feelings and well-being.

2. Embrace Growth and Change

Relationships, like individuals, are meant to grow and evolve over time. It's natural for people to experience shifts in their interests and values as they go through life. Embrace your partner’s new hobbies and changes, and support them in staying true to themselves within the relationship. This helps both individuals feel seen and valued as they grow.

3. Set Joint Goals

Setting shared goals as a couple is a powerful way to maintain a healthy relationship. Whether it's working toward something big, like buying a house, planning a vacation, or making an investment, pursuing these goals together fosters a sense of teamwork and purpose, strengthening the connection between you.

4. Incorporate Each Other into Daily Life

While this may sound simple, it’s easy for couples to fall into routines where they drift into their own habits. Make an effort to include your partner in everyday activities—grocery shopping, taking a walk, or even tidying the house together. These small, shared moments can help maintain a strong bond and keep your relationship grounded in mutual connection