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Lazy Dating: The Aussie Reputation That Needs a Romantic Makeover


Australia has a problem, and it’s one the rest of the world isn’t shy about pointing out: Aussie men are known globally for their “lazy” approach to romance. Whether it’s skipping the little gestures, opting for last-minute plans, or simply not putting in the effort, this reputation isn’t exactly something to be proud of.

But with Valentine’s Day around the corner, there’s never been a better time to turn things around—and it’s easier than you think.

According to James Stevens, founder of Mr Roses, Australia’s premier red rose delivery service, romantic gestures don’t have to be grand or complicated. “It’s not about going over the top; it’s about showing thoughtfulness and effort,” says Stevens, whose six decades of experience in the flower business have given him plenty of insight into matters of the heart.

Why Are Aussie Men Perceived as Lazy Daters?

From cultural norms that downplay romance to a casual lifestyle that often values simplicity over grand gestures, it’s easy to see how this stereotype emerged. But Stevens insists that romance doesn’t need to be complicated or extravagant to be meaningful.

“The trick is to go beyond the bare minimum,” he says. “Start early, plan ahead, and do something unexpected. That’s how you leave a lasting impression.”

A Simple Plan to Ditch the Lazy Dating Label

Stevens suggests a few simple yet effective ways to impress this Valentine’s Day:

  1. Start the Week with a Surprise
    Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday this year, but why wait? Order a stunning bouquet of premium red roses from MrRoses and have them delivered on Monday or Tuesday. “It’s unexpected and shows you’re thinking ahead,” says Stevens. “Plus, it gives the roses time to fully bloom by Friday, adding an extra touch of elegance.”

  2. Add a Personal Note
    When you send flowers, include a handwritten note with an invitation to a date on Friday. Whether it’s a cosy meal at home, a romantic picnic, or dinner at their favourite restaurant, the personal touch makes all the difference.

  3. Keep the Romance Alive
    Don’t just let the flowers do all the work. Use the week to build anticipation—leave small notes, plan little surprises, or simply tell them how much they mean to you. “It’s the effort that counts,” says Stevens.

  4. Commit to Quality
    If you’re going to send flowers, don’t skimp. Mr Roses offers luxurious red roses with 50–60cm stems, buds the size of a fist, and a sleek gift box presentation. These aren’t supermarket roses—they’re a statement of elegance and thoughtfulness.

The Bottom Line

Changing the lazy dating narrative isn’t about spending a fortune or pulling off an elaborate plan. It’s about showing that you care enough to make an effort—something as simple as sending a beautiful bouquet of roses early in the week and planning a thoughtful Friday date can do wonders.

So this Valentine’s Day, ditch the excuses, put in a little effort, and watch as you redefine what romance means.

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