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Do men and women agree on how easy it is for each other to find a job or a date?

  • Written by Stephen Whyte, Deputy Director - Behavioural Economics, Society and Technology (BEST) Research Group. Chief-Investigator - ARC ITTC Centre for Behavioural Inisghts for Technology Adoption (BITA).), Queensland University of Technology

Typically, you don’t have to write a cover letter before attending a candlelit dinner. But there are some eerie emotional parallels between finding a job and finding a date.

Both can require you to put yourself “out there” in uncomfortable ways, brace yourself for repeated rejection and grapple with heartache.

On the flip side, success in either pursuit can significantly boost your confidence and sense of wellbeing – especially if it feels like a good fit.

This raises the question: do Australians really believe they have equal access to the labour and dating markets?

Our study, published[1] in the journal Evolutionary Psychology, examined this question in depth, shining a light on how these beliefs are linked, and where they differ.

Whether Australians’ perceptions of job and dating market access are completely accurate or not, they can certainly have a big impact on the choices we make and the way we behave in both our personal and professional lives.

Finding a job versus finding a date

We surveyed more than 1,000 online daters aged between 18 and 81. Our sample only included participants who described their sexual orientation as heterosexual and who identified as either male or female.

A couple shares a meal featuring pizza, fries, and drinks
Our study looked at people’s beliefs about how easy it was to find a job or find a date. Arthur Bargan/Shutterstock[2]

It’s important to understand that we were looking specifically at people’s perceptions of their access to these markets.

That is, we looked at what men and women believed about their own (and the opposite sex’s) ability to find a job or find a date.

We also examined what both sexes believed about women’s economic dependence on men.

On average, we found women think it’s easier for men to find a decently paying job. Women also think they’re less economically dependent on male partners than men think women are.

Both sexes agree it’s easier for women to find a date than men. But men think they have it much worse off on this metric than women think they do.

Where beliefs diverge

These perceptions begin to vary significantly with factors such as age, education, number of children and political orientation.

There are some big differences in how women perceive women’s economic dependence and ease of dating access at different stages of life.

Middle-aged men and women (aged 35 to 55 years) share similar perspectives on women’s economic dependence. This contrasts with younger and older women, who believe women are significantly less economically dependent on men.

Women believe they have an easier time finding a date as they age from 18 to 35 years old. This perception then declines sharply from 40 to 75 years or older.

These patterns align with evolutionary theories[3], suggesting that access to resources and shifting household dynamics at different life stages influence how men and women view the labour and dating markets.

Parents comforting their child at home
Shifting beliefs about access at different age levels may reflect changing household dynamics. aijiro/Shutterstock[4]

Intertwined ‘markets’

Importantly, we found that perceptions of labour and dating market access are intrinsically linked, and they tend to reflect broader economic conditions.

For instance, men in high-income areas think they have better job and dating opportunities, while those in areas with greater gender income disparities see women as more economically dependent.

On the flipside, women in higher-income areas think they are less economically dependent. And those in areas with lower gender gaps in income perceive women’s dating access to be greater.

This interplay of beliefs is also reflected in participants’ own dating preferences. Women who believe they are more economically dependent on men tend to seek a long-term male partner with greater earning potential than them.

On the other hand, men who expect to earn more than their ideal partner think it’s easier for men to find a date.

Human resource manager communicating with candidate across desk during job interview
Beliefs about how easy it is to find a job and find a date are linked. Drazen Zigic/Shutterstock[5]

Why does this all matter?

Economic growth is the way economists and politicians measure increases in our standard of living. It is primarily driven by consumption.

That’s everyday Australians buying their morning coffees at work, leg hams at Christmas time or splurging on a new cabana for the beach.

Historically, more consumers meant more consumption, which meant higher economic growth and an increased standard of living.

Many governments have recognised and acted on this link, encouraging Australians to have more children. Back in the early 2000s, for instance, the Howard government implemented the so-called “baby bonus”.

Peter Costello holds a young baby in a hospital
The Howard-era ‘baby bonus’ aimed to boost Australia’s fertility rate. Julian Smith/AAP[6]

Then-Treasurer Peter Costello famously asked the nation to “Have one for mum, one for dad, and one for the country”.

It worked, sort of. Australia’s birth rates increased modestly[7].

Fast forward to today, and these issues are just as relevant. Dating and job market choices still have a significant impact on Australian society, both economically and socially.

References

  1. ^ published (doi.org)
  2. ^ Arthur Bargan/Shutterstock (www.shutterstock.com)
  3. ^ evolutionary theories (journals.plos.org)
  4. ^ aijiro/Shutterstock (www.shutterstock.com)
  5. ^ Drazen Zigic/Shutterstock (www.shutterstock.com)
  6. ^ Julian Smith/AAP (photos.aap.com.au)
  7. ^ modestly (theconversation.com)

Read more https://theconversation.com/do-men-and-women-agree-on-how-easy-it-is-for-each-other-to-find-a-job-or-a-date-247235

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