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How can parents talk to their kids about Cyclone Alfred?

  • Written by Elizabeth Westrupp, Associate Professor in Psychology, Deakin University



Cyclones and floods are terrifying and unpredictable. The stress of ensuring your family’s safety, worrying about what might happen and then coping with the aftermath can feel overwhelming.

Some parents are also managing kids and young people through the crisis. You may be worrying about how these events may impact your kids going forward.

The situation is obviously very serious, but there are steps parents can take to protect their children and help them navigate the (now ex-tropical cyclone[1]), flooding and the days that follow.

How we cope matters

Research shows the way we feel (for example, worry, fear, hope, confident) during and after traumatic events, can impact our longer-term mental health and wellbeing[2].

We might think distress is the most common reaction after a natural disaster. But in many cases, we can experience positive personal growth[3].

Research shows families do better when they actively work together, helping each other and problem-solving[4]. Finding practical solutions together can give us a sense of control and connection.

Research also suggests if we have feelings of hope and confidence during difficult times, it can build resilience[5].

One way to help reduce distress is to accept the situation and acknowledge everyone’s emotions[6] all the way through. This also helps build a sense[7] of security and support.

Research also shows extreme reactions – such as fixating on the event/news and becoming highly distressed – or ignoring and suppressing emotions, can make it harder to cope and increase our distress[8].

A woman, man and young child look at the swell at a beach.
Those in Queensland and northern NSW watched Cyclone Alfred approach for days. Jason O'Brien/AAP

So parents, keep calm and carry on

Parents are role models, and in stressful times, children look to us[9] to understand the situation and how to respond.

If parents are visibly upset, fearful or anxious, it can make the situation feel out of control for children.

So while you are understandably experiencing a range of emotions, it’s helpful to process them away from young children. With older children, you can share feelings of sadness or fear, but it’s still important to remain calm to show that everything will be okay.

Sticking to familiar routines helps both you and your child feel safe. It reassures them when life continues. So, go about daily activities as best you can.

Talk things through if you need

This is not to say you should ignore the cyclone or events related to it.

Talking openly about the situation helps children understand what’s happening and gives parents the chance to reassure their kids[10]. There’s no need to go into excessive detail – a calm, simple and factual response is usually the most effective way to comfort them.

All children are different. Some may be naturally anxious or sensitive, while others may pay less attention to what’s happening around them. In general, children are more capable[11] of handling difficult or distressing events than we might expect.

If your child is upset or anxious, it’s important to acknowledge their emotions and listen. Empathise with your child — what has happened is frightening and their response is completely natural.

Parents may feel tempted to dismiss their child’s fears (“don’t think about it!”) to avoid making the situation worse, but emotions don’t work that way[12]. By allowing children to express their feelings, you help them process and move through their emotions.

A man and young girl walk past a row of sandbags on a suburban street.
Don’t dismiss any fears your child might have – instead talk through them together. Jason O'Brien/AAP

Read more: How to get your kids to talk about their feelings[13]

Restoring normal life after the storm

Once the cyclone passes, children may still feel unsettled – something big has just happened, could it happen again? It’s possible power and water are cut off, there’s flooding, or the family home is damaged, making things feel strange.

Helping them find ways to feel confident and hopeful[14] can help speed up their recovery. Reassure your child the cyclone is over and keep offering them space to talk about what happened if they wish.

Though keep in mind, it’s important to strike a balance[15] — while it’s helpful to let children express their emotions and connect with you, too much talk about the scary event can increase anxiety and fear.

Find things to do together to keep busy. Simple activities like arts and crafts, cooking together, or spending time outside (if it’s safe) can help restore a sense of normalcy.

If your child seems to be struggling more than expected, consider reaching out to your health professional or your child’s school for further support.

For more support and advice you can contact KidsHelpline[16] on 1800 55 1800 or Lifeline[17] on 13 11 14.

References

  1. ^ now ex-tropical cyclone (www.theguardian.com)
  2. ^ mental health and wellbeing (compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com)
  3. ^ positive personal growth (psycnet.apa.org)
  4. ^ helping each other and problem-solving (www.tandfonline.com)
  5. ^ build resilience (compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com)
  6. ^ acknowledge everyone’s emotions (link.springer.com)
  7. ^ helps build a sense (www.sciencedirect.com)
  8. ^ can make it harder to cope and increase our distress (psycnet.apa.org)
  9. ^ children look to us (link.springer.com)
  10. ^ reassure their kids (link.springer.com)
  11. ^ more capable (www.sciencedirect.com)
  12. ^ don’t work that way (theconversation.com)
  13. ^ How to get your kids to talk about their feelings (theconversation.com)
  14. ^ confident and hopeful (compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com)
  15. ^ strike a balance (www.sciencedirect.com)
  16. ^ KidsHelpline (kidshelpline.com.au)
  17. ^ Lifeline (www.lifeline.org.au)

Read more https://theconversation.com/how-can-parents-talk-to-their-kids-about-cyclone-alfred-251712

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